I think it is the unwitting help that we get from all around us that ultimately lands us in the fluctuating moods of sadness and happiness.
Since our birth, out of love and goodness, our parents give a value system to us. The same process the child undergoes from the society he happens to be born in. By and by a picture of a successful life begins to emerge which is riddled with trappings that result in pain and disappointments.
As we grow into years and become independent, we begin to match our life with the picture that had already been created when we were being nurtured.
And it is my experience that the two pictures one from our past and the real one we face, are not always going to coincide. The degree of variation determines the extent of our sadness and happiness in life.
Since the times immemorial human civilizations have evolved comprehensive philosophies to overcome this sadness. This fondness is perpetual!
The important point is, is it possible to paint such a picture that fits all the pictures? I think yes!
“When we are born, we are shinning bright, bringing great happiness to all. People marvel at our beauty and light. Then overtime, muck starts being thrown at us. This muck is not ‘of ’ us. It is theirs, the people who are throwing it.”
(Bronnie Ware In Five Regrets of the Dying.)
These few lines perhaps can be a guide to our paint brush of life. We need to rediscover the beauty and light that we lived in when we were children. The second anchor of our thinking can be how best we can protect the child from all the muck being hurled at him.
The project can be very rewarding and perhaps it will be an ever evolving one!